By Zeta Yarwood
Introduction by Almahdy Eltonsy:
As a Projects Manager, the main contributors are the sub projects manager and other team members. Knowing their abilities and what kept them from going on is a main responsibility of the project manager. With big projects that could last for more than a year, it is really essential to understand the motive and inner feelings of your team, that doesn’t mean you need to be a psychiatric but you need to have more in depth understand of the human nature and motivation. We always work with numbers, budget, milestones, over-run / under-run but at the end of day we sit down and lay our heads back and remember a nice situation in the work that add a smile on our face or just remember a word from the customer or a comment that puts a big sad face.
Same with our team members…
The article in your hand today is a really wonderful article, dealing with a topic that could be confusing to differentiate (self Esteem vs. confidence). I contacted Zeta and get her permission to share the article, thanks for her. You will enjoy the article; you could find some reflection on you … I found some and I could understand some of my reactions about 10 years ago. I wish I had this article 10 years ago; it would have made me understand more.
How to Build Your Self-Esteem for Better Workplace Performance
While many are too ashamed to admit it, the number of people experiencing low self-esteem in the workplace is significant. People with low self-esteem often spend a large part of their day comparing themselves to others in the office. They perceive themselves and worry others perceive them as inadequate. They often feel inferior, and in extreme cases live in constant fear they could lose their job because they don’t, and may never, measure up. This is often accompanied by high stress levels, feelings of overwhelm or for some depression – which can, of course, impact performance. Which then reaffirms their belief they are, in fact, not good enough.
People with low self-esteem often doubt their decisions and capabilities, always seeking reassurance, approval or validation from their boss or peers. This is particularly true of those who have experienced low self-esteem in the past, a traumatic event such as redundancy or illness, or simply a long period of time out of the workforce.
If you want to have a successful career, building your self-esteem in the workplace is fundamental. If you don’t believe in yourself, how can you expect others to believe in you?
Building self-esteem can be a long journey, but for everyone is absolutely possible. The first step is to understand what self-esteem really is. In my opinion, it’s a combination of knowing you are of equal value to everyone else on this planet, and believing in yourself. Knowing that even if you’re not good at something yet, if you put your mind to it, you will get there in the end. It’s about self-respect and knowing who you are and who you want to be. Self-esteem is not the same as confidence. Confidence comes from doing. The more you do something, the more confident you will become doing it. Take driving for example. Scary to begin with, but practice and repeat it enough times, it almost becomes subconscious.
So how can you build your self-esteem in the workplace even further? Here are some steps you can take to get you started today:
1) Start making more decisions
To build your self-esteem, you have to start trusting yourself. The only way to do this is by making more decisions. The more decisions you make the more confident you will become at making them. Ensuring at each stage you note what worked, what didn’t work and what you need to do differently next time. So you can learn and constantly improve. Seeing yourself learning, getting better and making decisions independently can be great for self-esteem.
Remember – you’re making decisions every day. Decisions on what to wear, eat, read and do etc. You’ve probably made some pretty big decisions in the past – some of which will have brought you to where you are today (still alive with a roof over your head and food on your table). So you can make decisions. Now it’s simply a case of getting better at them. Which comes from practice, practice, practice.
2) Trust your instincts
This feeds into point number one. Often people who rely on outside confirmation they are doing the right thing, have forgotten to listen to their intuition. To listen to their minds and bodies to see and feel whether something is right or wrong.
Whenever you need to make a decision or take action, take 10 deep breaths and ask, “What is the outcome I am looking for? What looks and feels like the right decision here?”
We often do things we know aren’t right through fear. Fear if we don’t do them, something bad will happen. If you want to develop high self-esteem, being true to yourself and what you believe in is a crucial step. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it.
About the Author
Zeta Yarwood is recognised as a leading Career Coach and NLP Life Coach in Dubai, helping individuals across the world to achieve success in all areas of their lives. With a degree in Psychology and over 10 years’ experience in coaching, management and recruitment – working for multinational companies and award-winning recruitment firms – Zeta is an expert in unlocking human potential. Passionate about helping people discover their strengths, talents and motivation, Zeta lives to inspire others to dream big and create the life and career they really want.
While setting up her coaching business, Zeta simultaneously worked for the CEO of an MNC pharmaceutical company. This was to obtain a deeper insight into the corporate world and a greater understanding of leadership. Zeta gained significant exposure to all aspects of the business, working closely with the CEO on company strategy development and planning. She managed the strategy project, coached the CEO, restructured and rebuilt an entire department from scratch, managed and coached a culturally-diverse team, and initiated and led a corporate social responsibility programme. Zeta also had the fortune to work for the best manager she had ever had who taught her what it was to be a great leader.
With all of this experience, her NLP training and her genuine desire to help people, Zeta now coaches people all over the world to be the best they can be. Zeta feels lucky to have a career and life that she loves. It is her goal to help you, too, have the life, career and success you deserve.
Zeta’s qualifications include Evolved Life Coach (accredited by Federation of NLP Coaching Professionals); Evolved NLP Practitioner (FNLPCP accredited); Evolved NLP Life Coach (FNLPCP accredited); Time Paradigm Techniques Practitioner (FNLPCP accredited); and BSc Psychology from University of Newcastle-upon-Tyne, UK.
For more, visit http://zetayarwood.com/